My university experience is finally living up to my expectations of it being a miniature society as a whole. When the novelty of being a freshmen in NTU starts to wear off and when life starts to get really hectic because of various commitments, the vision of splendour, frolic and fun university life is simply gone with the wind. People start to show their true colours – in one way or another, it’s a good and a bad thing.
Today I got my first feeling of being betrayed, but after going through so many rounds of it in college, I’m already numb to it. I knew it was coming at my face but I put up this stoic face against it – I was just too tired to give an appropriate response, such as throwing a big tantrum, slumping into depression like a normal person would, so as to say.
We had computer lab today and then we had this very complicated assignment on protein and DNA structure. At first he (let’s call him Bleagh* from now on) dropped by my station and started asking me questions on how to do this and that, and I happily obliged. But then as the lab session progressed, he became increasingly demanding and didn’t even allowed me to check my mailbox because he wanted me to get done with my report ASAP so he can freaking copy it and pass it off as his own. I was shocked when he whipped out his USB drive and asked me to pass him a copy of MY lab report.
His speech of how he befriended smart and hardworking people started to flashback immediately and now I figured out why he was so nice to me at the first place – he needed someone to write him his lab report. I was very repulsed and disgusted so as to say, I bet it was all written over my face but he was too happy of his little devious plan that worked to even bother how twisted the muslces on my face were.
Fuck it, Bleagh. I’m not going to do anything for you next time. I was too nice.
(I really didn’t want to be vulgar but then I just couldn’t control my disgust towards that miser)
I always hope to end my entries on the brighter side :) like how I’ve met so many wonderful people over the past month, they made my life really fulfilling and of all, defines my continued existence in this place. Sometimes in life you just feel so lost without friends – you don’t know what are you for, what you should be doing. You feel aimless, blinded, dazed, jaded, but I’m glad that I have my friends – the people who defines what my university experience is.
Like how I met Huilin, we met each other on the first night of FOC and our conversation was merely revolving around our ex-colleges – we were from rival schools so there’s pretty much a lot of things to talk about! And then our friendship further developed into a personal thing where we’d share experiences we would have not told others… like how my social failure in college and etc. Although she has left NTU and will be leaving for Warwick, UK in two week’s time, that didn’t spell the end of our friendship.
Like how I met Bregitt. She was a little bit intimidating at first because she looked quite serious but then after going through thick and thin in FOC and the days after that, she’s a really nice, playful and cheeky person! She always claims that she’s not a girl because she think she was too outgoing and stuff like that, but I think otherwise – that’s the kind of person that I admire the most. Those who can initiate conversations with others, and be outspoken. Sometimes I’m just too shy to speak out.
Like how I met Chongx, we were initially strangers and he was the one who initiated the conversation with me on a night walk around CBD with my orientation group. Our friendship blossomed to rapidly after that, and in no time we keep crashing each others’ room, had night cycling trips out of the campus just for McDonald’s, wrote meaningless, mindless wall post on each other Faceboook walls (tantamount to spamming!)… and most important of all, gave me that pat in the back whenever I needed it the most. Thank you!
On Merdeka Night - Chongx, Huilin, Bregitt and me :)
On Merdeka Night – a night to remember. We had so much fun reminiscing about the good times we had during FOC and the week after (damn it why did Chongx went back, he missed out all the fun :D ) and now looking back at our shared memories and experiences, it’s like a dream to me. Thank you for being my bestest of my greatest friends ;)
Sorry to hear that you already got a false taste of what friendship is supposed to be. I never can get why people like to do that, use and abuse, suck and chuck, it’s a vicious cycle I tell ya… I learned to cover myself that way by putting on a front… people think I’m really mean and scary at first when they meet me, and I think that’s one of the barriers to keep away the negative ones and keep the great ones around who took the time willingly to get to know me.
I’m glad that you have met others who can accept you for you, and not for what you do, or what you can accomplish and give them. Those are the priceless ones you should keep around. ^_^
Destinys last blog post..2008 MTV Awards
I’ve savoured quite a bit of how fake friendship tastes like back in college but this time in university it was well-concealed and really caught me by surprise! Maybe because in university people knew how to put up a more convincingly true facade or maybe it’s just because I fell victim for being too optimistic (for painting an overly rosy picture of how angelic everyone is). I know that there are good people out there but have grossly overestimated the number of them. I forgot that there are still bad sheep!
I hold a grudge against someone for very long, so I guess I’ll be fine after a few days heh. And yep I’m really glad that I have real friends to fall back on :) they’re definitely keepers!
urk? sorry to hear that teddY. :roll: from what i read in your post, even me cannot stand that type of behavior. if he was insisted on asking me to teach him “How”.. i’m still ok.. but, forcing you to do something that is not what you supposed to, and yet, it was your work, it is so not fair and selfish. if he did pay you as a worker, then, that is a different thing. OMG. i hope he is not here, at my campus. :wink:
p.s: be strong teddY, this is the challenge that prepares you for future challenges. be happy! :grin:
I still couldn’t believe I was so stupid at that moment to allow him to have a soft copy of my lab report. I should’ve waken myself up from that stupid dream of everyone-has-no-ill-intentions :( gee! But anyway, speaking of it, I discovered a fatal error in my lab report which renders more than half of my experimental results wrong – I’m going to tell him about that but for the values he’ll have to go get it himself. I guess that’s just plain bad karma for him…
I couldn’t have strike the deal even if he offered me monetary compensation. I don’t want people to see knowledge as something that can be defined through currency. Knowledge is sharing, not about earning.
aww hugss. remember what i told you! make sure you give him a good kick in the nuts the next time. not literally though!!
Huilins last blog post..Miffed
Yeap, thanks for being such a good listener Huilin! I believe in retribution so karma will do that kick-him-in-the-nads act for me ;) some time in the future.
hey teddy. A lot of times, life in the UNI is unlike the “real working world” with its own unique microsociety and like that, but it’s also a place where you get ready and arm yourself with all the tools to face all that you will need to in the future. Don’t be disheartened :) *hugs*
lettis last blog post..Friday Night Lights
I guess I really need to wise up a lot in university! I’ve been too optimistic about the nature of people here – yes, I’ve met a lot of really great people but I’ve forgotten that there are still a bunch of black sheep in within. I shall keep my eyes wide open next time ;) but luckily this experience didn’t end with some tradegy, and I’ve learned something and didn’t lose much (perhaps just a bruised ego, heh).
University tends to be closer to the post-university world (as per another commenter) in the sense that you meet people with more nerve than principle. Even though I was quite shocked that someone had the gall to ask for your lab report without thinking of how much work you personally invested into writing and preparing, there are a handful of people in the so-called “real world” that do such a thing to get ahead. And at times you wonder how the hell this person got into university with such a mottled work ethic. When I was still in business school, there was one guy who was actually willing to pay me to write his final 10-page paper on colonialism. I don’t think I was willing to lose any sleep then for that extra bit of cash.
Eventually that guy will get a nice view of the business end of bad karma. :wink: Also, it’s a lesson learned either way, yeah? =D
On the lighter side, yes, uni is great for the more genuine friendships. It’s good to see someone treasure them in the way that you do!
I couldn’t agree more with what you’ve said Id (nods nods nods) ;) university is starting to mimic the chaos of the post-university world a month or so after the freshmen orientation, when people started to show their true colours. I was just shell shocked that how can someone do something so wrong, so blatantly?! I must admit I was very repulsed and angry upon his request for the soft copy of my hard-earned lab report but I thought he just needed it for referrence. Thinking of it now, who the hell needs a soft copy for referrence if he sees me almost everyday and can ask me anytime he feels like it? I was just being too naive I guess – I have to wise up :)
All thanks to him, I’ve learned a lesson. I gained insights on how people are like in the real world and yet didn’t give up much to learn – all I had to pay was just a bruised ego :D I believe in retribution so bad karma will eventually give him the treatment he deserves in the future.
I’m surprised to hear that somebody tried to ‘hire’ you to write him his final paper, but I guess that’s a compliment in another way because that means that you write really well to actually get paid for writing papers :D heh.
aiyor, don’t waste your time on those kind of people, instead spend more time with me =P
relax la, don’t believe in karma! Believe in God and yourself (:
and yes i love reading rants! woots! not to forget scandals tooooooooo!!
Chongxs last blog post..Dare to be different
Haha yea I guess so… but then I’m torn between the choice of being nice (treat everyone equally) and being practical (treat those who value you more better). Hmmm. Anyway thanks for lending me your ear haha! I really need someone to listen to me rant all day :razz:
hahah my ears getting very tired of your rants=P
heee xD
Yadda yadda and you still had dinner with me just now. LOL!!! Anyway thanks for the McD sundae heh!
What an ASS!
I’ve had a junior like this. He asked for my previous reports. Well, I gave it to him since I dont really need it. But it’ll hurt him in his future endeavor, for being incompetent and lazy.
Oh well Teddy. Glad you stood up. ( Doesnt matter you told him directly or not)
Oh… now your junior reminds me of him! He was boasting to me today that he had got the soft copies of the lab report from one of our seniors. He was simply too lazy to write his own. WTF. But I’m glad that he don’t need to leech on my reports anymore :D heheh.
He’ll definitely have a taste of his own misdeeds in the future. Let’s just wait and see. Well standing up for my own rights is quite a natural instinct, especially when he’s going to pass my work off his own. I didn’t tell him off directly but I hope he gets my cue. Next time I’ll just ignore him for good.
Thanks anyway!
Teddy, I admire that you handle the situation well. I’m so proud of you. Those kind of people, or may I say, asses, don’t deserve to be treated nicely. If I were you I’d ignore him and distance myself from him. If you look at the bright side of this situation, you are clearly being seen as one of the smart people! (nerds! hahahaha! :razz: )
Anyways, it’s great that you’ve met such great friends. :grin:
Wow I did? I didn’t realise it because I thought it was quite bad for me to get angry… I hate being angry because it gives me heartburn and sleepless nights. I don’t hold grudges for long for the same reason. Hating is just too much for me :) I guess I’ll just stay away from him next time, teehee! Thanks for the tip!
No I’m not seen as the smart kind but the hardworking kind. So usually when it comes to project groupwork, my coursemates will be very nice to me out of the blue. LOL! I knew they were boot-licking. They thought I’m blind…
I have really good friends and I’m glad I have them! I have awesome blog friends too… like you!!! :mrgreen:
agree with all frens comments…just ignore such idiots next time…someone will get to them soon ;)
hang in there coussie and enjoy the uni life!! :grin:
Yea I shall just get away from him :D karma comes around and will kick him hard in the butt next time! Thanks anyway!